RAPPORT THROUGH MIRRORING

1. For the first 30 seconds, slowly move the bottom half of your
body into the same position as your client. Continue to adjust this portion of your physiology to maintain a match with your client should he move during the exercise.

2.  During the second 30 seconds, subtly arrange the upper portion of your torso in the same position as the upper torso of your client. Continue to adjust this portion of your physiology to maintain a match with your client should he move during the exercise.

3.  In the third 30 seconds, position your head with the same tilt both side to side and front to back as your client and imitate certain aspects of the facial expressions presented by your client. Continue to adjust this portion of your physiology to maintain a match with your client should he move during the exercise.

4.  During the fourth 30 seconds, match the frequency, depth and timing of your client’s breathing with your own. Continue to adjust this portion of your physiology to maintain a match with your client should he move during the exercise.

5.  Test that you have achieved a relationship of rapport by slowly shifting any portion of your physiology into a new position. If the client shifts to that position without conscious awareness of the shift, you have the evidence that you require to know that you have achieved rapport. If not, return to step 1.

Achieving Rapport through Crossover Mirroring

1. Sway your body subtly in unison with the rhythm of the client’s
breathing.

2. Once you believe you have achieved rapport, subtly change the
rhythm of your body sway and note whether the client’s breathing shifts accordingly. If so, you have achieved rapport. If not, return to step 1.

source whispering in the wind, Grinder, Bostic